That Awful Word

By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 31, 2012

Do you punish your child for disrespect? Do you punish your child for fighting with their siblings? Well, what about bad grades or missing homework assignments?

Wait just a minute… It’s a trick question. The word ‘punishment’ is the ugly word. As parents, I want you to take that word, write it down on a sheet of paper, then wad it up and throw it in the trash because that is where it belongs. The word itself feels heavy on the heart and begs to be spat out of your mouth. When a child hears the word they feel less than they were; just a little dirty. Get rid of it today. Don’t use it. Ever.

The good news is that when most parents say punishment, what they really mean is consequences. Discipline means ‘to teach.’ Always think about what you are teaching when you set a child’s consequences. Ask yourself a couple of questions. What do you want a child to learn? How do you want a child to remember this when he or she is in their twenties? Fifties?

Just remember this… Punishment is punitive. Punishment hurts. Punishment is a self-gratification tool that does not teach the child anything. Punishment belongs only to people in prison or jail. Your child may have done something not-so-smart but they do not deserve prison, they deserve to learn.

Copyright © 2014 Jackie Saulmon Ramirez. All Rights Reserved.

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About Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Jackie has volunteered for more than twenty years for children and family issues. Currently she writes for parents in the "Reminder" and "Parent Rap" Facebook page. If you are interested in receiving the "Reminder," send her a message.
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