By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | June 19, 2012
You know one of my favorite parenting tips is to change the way you think about something, perhaps your child or the circumstance. This bears repeating in the off chance that something will click and you may have a small success. The goal is to lessen stress, anxiety or anger and other benefits may surprise you. See if these might work for you:
The Problem: I get frustrated while helping my child with a math problem, explaining it over and over again. Negative comments come to mind and I bite my tongue.
The Change: I think of my child as if she was my neighbor’s child. That immediately makes me ten times more patient and any negativity vanishes.
The Problem: I’m going to be late for an appointment through no fault of my own. I get upset with the person I feel has made me late.
The Change: Divine intervention! By being late by a mere five or ten minutes I may have missed a terrible accident. I also know doctors, companies or agencies plan on flex-minutes in their workday.
The Problem: A server tells me there is no difference between ‘grilled onions’ and ‘sautéed onions.’ I get annoyed the server thinks I don’t know anything about cooking.
The Change: I order both dishes because I love onions and decide this server’s parents taught her nothing about cooking. It doesn’t force the issue and allows the server to ‘own’ her experience, or lack thereof.
Put ‘The Change’ in your parenting tool box, keeping it honed and ready to meet any obstacles throughout your day. The Change can be as large or small as you want, doesn’t cost you a dime and takes little effort.
Copyright © 2014 Jackie Saulmon Ramirez. All Rights Reserved.
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