Out of the Fire, Into the Frying Pan


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | July 12, 2012

Parents Anonymous has provided parent support groups all over New Jersey for many years. I attended every single week because it helped me learn what was normal in certain age ranges, what activities kids were in to, what to look out for and what to expect at any given time. It also put things in perspective for me in a way that I clearly understood.

My group met Tuesdays and I was always in a good mood afterward. The kids would come home from school, looked at each other and say, “Must be Tuesday!” because they could sense my mood. By Monday I would need my PA fix again.

On the drive to the meeting I would make a mental checklist of things I wanted to talk about or questions to ask. There was the last minute science project, a problem with a teacher touting plagiarism, a concern about one child not focusing and what seemed like constant bickering over the stupidest things to start. After all the parents greeted each other we would get down to business.

Addressing the parents’ more serious issues always came first. One mom said her son punched holes in her walls because he did not get the game system he wanted, another’s daughter screamed for little reason, another mom described her husband’s drinking and verbal abuse of the family and another mom with three kids just found out she was pregnant yet again then burst into tears.

Now it was my turn. Just listening to everyone else and the problems they were having made me feel better about my own troubles. I’ll help Francisca plan better for school projects, the teacher can’t believe a girl with a Hispanic name can write so beautifully. The constant bickering… when one girl is sick the other is right there trying to make the other feel better. Their bickering is normal; most kids do it to one degree or another but when it is important they’ll be there for each other. Gosh, how would I have made it without my Parents Anonymous group?

Copyright © 2014 Jackie Saulmon Ramirez. All Rights Reserved.

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About Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Jackie has volunteered for more than twenty years for children and family issues. Currently she writes for parents in the "Reminder" and "Parent Rap" Facebook page. If you are interested in receiving the "Reminder," send her a message.
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