By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | August 7, 2012
After eight years of attending college my twenty-six-year-old daughter Katie returned to begin her career in art. She looks and sounds the same and acts the same but she has settled down somewhat. She no longer has to be told to put things away, do laundry or to go to bed.
The other day Katie brought her new cello to play for me, a newly acquired skill. She taught herself piano and took lessons for violin a few years before she left home. The cello is larger and has a deeper, richer sound that resonates amazingly. Don’t ask me why, but as she began to draw the bow across the cello, my tears started to flow. It was a very emotional moment and few minutes before the tears stopped. My only explanation for the tears is that perhaps I understood concretely for the first time just how much she had grown, not just as my daughter and student, but as a human being.
Even more surprising was a discovery she and her sister Chelsey made while working in the basement a few days ago. It was a cassette she recorded of herself at about four or five years old. She was whispering in her tiny voice, a scary story complete with sound effects for suspense. Her speech had not fully developed just yet, the ‘r’ barely audible. As we all listened to that sweet little girl weave her spooky story, Katie herself started to cry!
You might say we’re a bit emotional here but it shows the impact when a few years pass. I’ve often spoken about dealing with issues with our children and focusing on the outcome, how they will remember it and using that as a guide. Also remember this, when your children go away from home, something changes, they and you will never be the same. Enjoy them right now…
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