By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | Sept 2, 2012
Human beings are creatures of emotion and being a parent often enhances those feelings. I cringe yet thinking about things I may have said as I discovered vegetables stashed between cushions or a VCR tape with its film pulled out into a pile. “Oh my God look what you did!”
Now imagine the wide-eyed faces of my little girls not knowing what might come next. I cannot bring myself to think how scared they must have been and how this moment was imprinted into their childhood memories. I wonder, did I get to Parents Anonymous soon enough? Was I ever able to undo the damage?
From attending the Parents Anonymous support meetings I learned there are ‘safety-net tricks’ a parent can put in place to prevent those “Oh my God” moments. One such trick I employed was serious Lady Justice with her scales of truth and fairness to weigh the value of my child against any object, like my favorite yellow plate that was broken or the black paint that was spilled on the new mauve carpet.
Without a doubt folks, when I compare the value of my child with any object, accident, occurrence or mistake— believe me, my child is going to be the winner, hands down. No one thing will ever mean as much to me as my children.
Have you ever discovered a damaged item or loss caused by your child? Just how mad were you? Were you angry enough to need a safety-net trick? You will know if you have what is called a ‘hair-trigger’ temper. You find yourself getting angry or upset at little things or things of small importance. Your heart pounds, respiration increases and adrenaline floods your veins. Count to ten… to a hundred by twos. Got your safety net in place?
No matter where you live in the U.S. there are hotlines you can call when you need to vent or calm down.
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