Two Tricks My Mother Played Well


Young children getting their daily nap is as important to parents as it is to kids.

By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 1, 2015

Many of you have heard how my mother abused me, but you have not heard about the two things she did well.

As any parent will tell you, they treasure their young children’s naps. They use the time to get things done and some use that naptime to get much-needed rest themselves. In my Parents Anonymous group I remember a few parents sharing in group how difficult it was to get their children to sleep for their nap. Some spent as much as an hour nagging and yelling and some had even spanked their kids. Until this…

What did my mother do that worked so well?

My mother had two techniques to get me to take a nap and both were equally successful:

  1. Mom told me that I did NOT have to sleep, BUT I did have to lay still. I could look at books or play with my toys but I was not allowed to sit up or get out of bed. That took all the pressure off for me to try and stay awake. The bonus – there was no hitting or yelling. I would be so relaxed that I would fall sound asleep within a few minutes.
  2. Mom had a devious backup plan that worked like magic, too. On the window she had multi-colored polka dot curtains and she asked me if I could count all of the dots of a particular color. Do know how boring that is, especially when you lose count? I could never get that far before I’d fall… Zzzz.

Needless to say, these tricks were pure genius. I can vouch for the effectiveness of this up until the children are out of their toddlerhood. I always imagined how great a parent my mother would have been if she was a member of a Parents Anonymous group. This would have been a great start!

WEEKLY QUOTES: Parents and Attitudes

The manner of giving is worth more than the gift. ~Pierre Corneille, Le Menteur

You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give. ~Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet

Attitudes are contagious. Are yours worth catching? ~Dennis and Wendy Mannering

Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference. ~Winston Churchill

A hug is a great gift – one size fits all, and it’s easy to exchange. ~Author Unknown

We should give as we would receive, cheerfully, quickly, and without hesitation; for there is no grace in a benefit that sticks to the fingers. ~Seneca

Wherever you go, no matter what the weather, always bring your own sunshine. ~Anthony J. D’Angelo, The College Blue Book

Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same. ~Francesca Reigler

To give and then not feel that one has given is the very best of all ways of giving. ~Max Beerbohm

If instead of a gem, or even a flower, we should cast the gift of a loving thought into the heart of a friend, that would be giving as the angels give. ~George MacDonald

If you don’t get everything you want, think of the things you don’t get that you don’t want. ~Oscar Wilde

The sun shines and warms and lights us and we have no curiosity to know why this is so; but we ask the reason of all evil, of pain, and hunger, and mosquitoes and silly people. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

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About Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Jackie has volunteered for more than twenty years for children and family issues. Currently she writes for parents in the "Reminder" and "Parent Rap" Facebook page. If you are interested in receiving the "Reminder," send her a message.
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20 Responses to Two Tricks My Mother Played Well

  1. Leanne Cole says:

    we have a tv and video player, well we did, in our bedroom and when my children were getting to that age, I would put them in the bedroom with one of their favourite shows, they would be quite for an hour or two, I would get my quiet time, and most times they went to sleep. Brilliant.

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    • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

      Thank you, Leanne. I told my girls it was time for their nap and they usually went to bed and rested or read but they understood early on that nap time was important for all of us – my sanity and their moods. I think a lot of parents have a difficult time because a pattern was not set or followed. It is hard to set a pattern when you are doing errands and aren’t home.

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      • Leanne Cole says:

        I never set a pattern, I wanted my girls to be able to sleep anytime it was convenient, so they got used to getting a nap with they could. If we were out and they didn’t get to sleep before 3 in the afternoon, they wouldn’t get one, then they would sleep that night. My girls became very adaptable, if the routine was upset it didn’t matter, they adjusted, it was what they were used to.

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      • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

        I am glad that worked for you. When my youngest was little and tired she would be impossible; her older sister was happy all the time. A schedule worked for us but I would have loved to be more impulsive and do things differently. Kids are all different and each parent does what works for them. 🙂

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  2. LadyBlueRose's Thoughts Into Words says:

    that was a good lesson 🙂
    I like the quotes and I enjoyed your post….wise woman you are…
    Thank you for sharing
    Take Care…You Matter…
    )0(
    maryrose

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    • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

      Thank you, Maryrose, I appreciate that. Those quotes are ones that go out to the 360 parents and professionals in the Reminder.
      Thank you for the “You Matter” comment. 🙂 I really needed that today.
      Jackie

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      • LadyBlueRose's Thoughts Into Words says:

        your thoughts make a difference you know…You and your thoughts do great work for so many, though they may not find the words to tell you….
        You have a peace-filled evening 🙂
        Take Care and Yes You Matter 🙂
        )0(

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      • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

        ❤ (((((HUGS)))))

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  3. Jackie
    Your mother was wise and practical

    and the apple didn’t fall far from the tree.

    Big Hugs

    john

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  4. My mother naped almost everyday and we napped with her. She also referred to going to bed as going to the “blanket show”.

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