By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 1, 2015
Many of you have heard how my mother abused me, but you have not heard about the two things she did well.
As any parent will tell you, they treasure their young children’s naps. They use the time to get things done and some use that naptime to get much-needed rest themselves. In my Parents Anonymous group I remember a few parents sharing in group how difficult it was to get their children to sleep for their nap. Some spent as much as an hour nagging and yelling and some had even spanked their kids. Until this…
What did my mother do that worked so well?
My mother had two techniques to get me to take a nap and both were equally successful:
- Mom told me that I did NOT have to sleep, BUT I did have to lay still. I could look at books or play with my toys but I was not allowed to sit up or get out of bed. That took all the pressure off for me to try and stay awake. The bonus – there was no hitting or yelling. I would be so relaxed that I would fall sound asleep within a few minutes.
- Mom had a devious backup plan that worked like magic, too. On the window she had multi-colored polka dot curtains and she asked me if I could count all of the dots of a particular color. Do know how boring that is, especially when you lose count? I could never get that far before I’d fall… Zzzz.
Needless to say, these tricks were pure genius. I can vouch for the effectiveness of this up until the children are out of their toddlerhood. I always imagined how great a parent my mother would have been if she was a member of a Parents Anonymous group. This would have been a great start!
WEEKLY QUOTES: Parents and Attitudes
The manner of giving is worth more than the gift. ~Pierre Corneille, Le Menteur
You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give. ~Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet
Attitudes are contagious. Are yours worth catching? ~Dennis and Wendy Mannering
Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference. ~Winston Churchill
A hug is a great gift – one size fits all, and it’s easy to exchange. ~Author Unknown
We should give as we would receive, cheerfully, quickly, and without hesitation; for there is no grace in a benefit that sticks to the fingers. ~Seneca
Wherever you go, no matter what the weather, always bring your own sunshine. ~Anthony J. D’Angelo, The College Blue Book
Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same. ~Francesca Reigler
To give and then not feel that one has given is the very best of all ways of giving. ~Max Beerbohm
If instead of a gem, or even a flower, we should cast the gift of a loving thought into the heart of a friend, that would be giving as the angels give. ~George MacDonald
If you don’t get everything you want, think of the things you don’t get that you don’t want. ~Oscar Wilde
The sun shines and warms and lights us and we have no curiosity to know why this is so; but we ask the reason of all evil, of pain, and hunger, and mosquitoes and silly people. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
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