Edicts to Last a Lifetime


As any mother will tell you, walking after dark can be very risky behavior.

By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | July 1, 2015

As parents, we tend to sometimes feel that it’s useless to keep reminding children to do things that will keep them happy, safe and well.

“Wash your hands before you eat.”

“Don’t talk to strangers.”

“Look before you cross the street.”

“Cover your mouth before you sneeze or cough.”

“Don’t smoke or do drugs.”

“Eat your vegetables and try the ones you don’t like.”

“Don’t have sex before you are married.”

“If you have sex before you are married, use a condom.”

Oh if I only had a nickel for every time I have shouted, “Get down from there before you break your fool neck!”

Was I talking to hear myself yack on and on? No, I was probably overprotective to some degree but I felt it was all for my daughters’ benefit. Were all my efforts a waste of time?

Oh if I only had a nickel for every time I have shouted, “Get down from there before you break your fool neck!”

Climbing dresser drawers and riding a bicycle on a small deck took my breath from fear. Twirling a fork at dinner and hanging out the open bedroom window with no screen were less nerve wracking but a concern nonetheless. Were all my efforts for naught?

My daughter Katie texted me the other night about 10:30 p.m. last week saying she could hear me in her head. It seems she was walking home after shopping and probably second-guessed her errand.

“Always be aware of your surroundings,” she said.

Katie is my youngest and will be 29 soon. This hopeful message is for parents: As futile as it may seem, continue prodding and reminding your darlings and when they do go away from home, they will take your teachings with them.

Katie arrived at her home safe and sound far away while her mother worried. As tough as it is, I understand that we must all eventually let go.

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Copyright © 2014 Jackie Saulmon Ramirez. All Rights Reserved.

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About Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Jackie has volunteered extensively for more than twenty years in children's and families' issues with Parents Anonymous. Currently she writes for parents in the "Reminder" and the Soup to Nuts blog and "Parent Rap - Soup to Nuts" Facebook page. If you are interested in receiving the "Reminder," send her a message.
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5 Responses to Edicts to Last a Lifetime

  1. My wife always said that one day they will come to appreciate what you taught them.

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    • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

      Kids can’t really understand you until they experience the world. As long as they live at home they tend to see parents as someone ‘over’ them like a boss or worse yet. like a jailer. After they leave, a light is turned on. 🙂

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