Mom vs. Dad Parenting Articles


Mothers and fathers do parent differently and those differences are equally valuable to a child’s growing-up experience.

By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | June 3, 2015

Parenting articles may target mothers or fathers but in reality, both should read them.

Just to remind everyone that even though an article’s title may say “Dads” or “Moms” or in any other way limits it to one group, that there are still gems of knowledge to be gleaned from it. Most parenting articles are aimed at mothers whether it states that or not. Fathers, though, are a narrower group and I do add parenting articles for ‘dad’ for that reason. In any case, I encourage mothers out there to read those ‘dad’ articles. By my reading articles targeting fathers, it helped me learn more about the father’s perspective in general and specifically in my own family.

As an example, take how a mother doles out chores and responsibilities. When the mother asks/tells the father to be responsible for the children (ages 5, 7 and 11) for the day, she needs to let go of that task and let the father own the day. If there are medical conditions or other situations that have special requirements then mom can educate dad about them and all the ‘what ifs.’ I read about this in an article, then experienced it my group; mom tells dad this:

“Honey, I have the shower to attend in North Jersey and I cannot bring the kids. You will have them all day long. At 10 a.m. William needs to go to the library; take Annie and Buddy with you and look at children’s books on dinosaurs. At 12:30 when you get them back home you need to wash their hands; libraries are very dirty. After that you need to feed them. William likes baloney with mustard, Annie will have a turkey sandwich and Buddy can make whatever he wants. And then…”

Fathers and mother both bring their skill sets into parenting; knowing of and sharing those abilities create an environment for success.

You can see where this is going, right? Mom wants to be in both places so she can feel like she has done a good job. But the big pink elephant in the room is that fathers are the other parent; they are equally capable of caring for, nurturing and feeding their offspring. Dads might seem to need help in the beginning because mom has run the show for so long. But once dad has owned his parent authority, he may surprise you.

Dad may go to the library but he may just as well want to take the children for fast food. Then dad may take the children for a hike or out on a boat. If dad is doing the parenting work, let him figure it out. If there are appointments that must be met like birthday parties, scout meetings, tutoring session and so on, they should be on the family calendar. Both parents need to be able to take over at a moment’s notice. Mom may very well wonder why she waited so long.

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Copyright © 2014 Jackie Saulmon Ramirez. All Rights Reserved.

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About Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Jackie has volunteered extensively for more than twenty years in children's and families' issues with Parents Anonymous. Currently she writes for parents in the "Reminder" and the Soup to Nuts blog and "Parent Rap - Soup to Nuts" Facebook page. If you are interested in receiving the "Reminder," send her a message.
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6 Responses to Mom vs. Dad Parenting Articles

    • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

      Thank you! I appreciate you and your kindness. ❤

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      • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

        Thank you for your ever so kind offer but I have a brand new laptop. My husband is an engineer that tests and experiments so he has about five computers in his room. I had borrowed one but he did not want it “populated with malware” and did not want it to be “promiscuous online” so I stayed to a few ordinary websites like Gmail and Facebook. (He is a funny human being.)

        You will be forever a friend, Jueseppi. ❤

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      • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

        Thank you, Jueseppi! I will add it to my address book. 🙂

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