About Jackie

A “short bio…” you’ve got to be kidding! My life has been too complicated and I can’t tell just part  of the story without  all the details. I can  tell you I have logged thousands of hours as a volunteer trying to help parents be good moms and dads because that’s what we all  want. I can tell you I have worked on my anger (and sometimes rage) and parenting skills for about thirty years. Is that all? No, but I realize now that everyone reading these posts on my Soup to Nuts blog deserves  to know my whole story. You may learn from it, you may not believe it, but you do deserve to know my background. I am in the process of writing my full bio to fill the need most readers have to know WHO this person is and WHAT makes them qualified to write this— it’s the first thing I want to know about other bloggers myself. Be as patient with me as you would want me to be with a parent who asks for my help.

CHANGE OF PLANS

My short bio is going to be a statement of the purpose this blog. The actual “about me” piece will become an article that I will post with all the other information. This will not be e-mailed in the “Reminder” but a URL link will be provided for those who may be interested. (I hate the word “Blog,” it sounds like “Blah” or “Eggnog!”)

BLOG STATEMENT

This blog will be my avenue to get bits and pieces of parenting information out there for any parent who may be searching or reaching out for help. I want parents to use those “tools” I share only if they work for them in their family. I don’t think parenting should be that complicated and should not need a $17.98 manual from a bookstore to figure it out. I share positions, thoughts and ideas about parenting that I believe in like, not spanking and non-violence. Parenting should be rewarding and I know it’s more fun when you are not hitting your kids. I try to write simply and in a nonjudgmental manner because we all start out knowing very little. A workshop presenter once said, “Meet people where they are, not where you want them to be.” We each travel our own parenting journey in our own way and in our own time. Hopefully we will produce children that are well-adjusted, healthy and know they are loved.

I am not a social worker or a professional as far as writing and parenting go. I try to write concisely because parents are busy people and they don’t need the fluff. There will be spelling and grammar mistakes, I don’t write to teach English, I write to fill a need.

I hope to have the article about me finished soon. It is taking longer than I planned in part because it is about a very difficult time in my life and the pain is sometimes unbearable. When it gets too sad for me, I will take a break and work on other things

Did I leave anything out? If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me at any time.

Your turn…

NOTE: I have changed my daughters’ names as of 2/17/2013 to protect their privacy.

82 Responses to About Jackie

  1. ileneonwords says:

    Thanks for visiting my blog today!

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  2. I would have loved to have had parenting information like this when my sons were children.

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    • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

      Thank you! I try to give information that I wanted and needed when my children were younger. Again, thank you.

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  3. godtisx says:

    Thanks for visiting my blog!

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  4. Thank you for following my blog 🙂

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  5. andy1076 says:

    Hi Jackie, Being a parent myself. I love your blog! Thank you for following mine 🙂

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  6. Thank you for stopping by my blog. 🙂

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  7. darealztalk says:

    Jackie, thank you for all the support. I have enjoyed reading your blog and the inspiration and knowledge you provide.

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  8. VisitSiena says:

    thank you for following my blog! happy that you like it 🙂 what an interesting blog you have ! for sure will be back here 🙂

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  9. willowdot21 says:

    Hi Jackie I am really grateful that you have followed my blog! I salute you for the work you are doing and your blog direction. It is so important to get the word out. No trains us to be parents and we need all the help going. I have written a lot about domestic abuse, Silence was my first foray into the subject of domestic violence and its effects.
    I did write a whole months worth of child abuse , it was the hardest project I had ever tried . I was bullied at school and at work and I have always myself to be mentally abused and trapped but now I have a voice and I will use it. That said I love my family. Be well be happy and be blessed! and keep shouting!! xx

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    • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

      Child abuse prevention is the key. Thank you for your comment. Any domestic violence should be banned. Domestic violence has many facets and is a very tough subject to write about. I once worked on a state panel of professionals on domestic violence, child abuse and aging out issues. I learned quick how difficult DV is to prevent and treat. It sounds like you have resolved the situation you were in so God bless you! 🙂 Much love back to you and hugs to boot!

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  10. Thanks for the likes Jackie and Followed you Back! Your life seems like a rich tapestry, mine has been a real `Baptism of Fire’ l will one day tell people more! But so much and need to disturb old and painful memories, not ready yet to relive these, so bear with as l tell all my followers!

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  11. Jackie, thank you for your beautiful blog and for sharing your mission with us. Your words are profound and we can all learn from that. I agree, parenting is a beautiful and divine journey and it is a great gift that we should all handle with care.
    All the best
    N

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  12. Xena says:

    Jackie,
    I’ve nominated you for the Lighthouse Award. You shed light and give guidance to parents and I feel that you deserve this award. The description and rules are found at http://blackbutterfly7.wordpress.com/2014/03/02/the-lighthouse-award/

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    • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

      Thank you so very much for this gracious honor. As much as I would love to accept and do those things, I cannot because I can’t spare the time. Yesterday, when you posted the Lighthouse Award nomination to me, I was supposed to be working on my next Reminder/post but I was called on to help a parent with an issue that was disrupting to their family. Parents in need will always come first.

      Again, thank you, from the bottom of my heart. Just being nominated is award enough for me. Now I must get back to work. 🙂

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  13. Xena says:

    Jackie,
    That is why I believe you deserve the award — because you help bring light to parents. With that said, I do understand the time required to comply with the rules for acceptance. There’s no time limit on acceptance if you should one day find you have the time. I respect your dedication to your work and even if you never find time to comply with the rules, the nomination still belongs to you.

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    • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

      That makes me smile. 🙂 If I can squeeze time I might try at some point but I can’t promise. I had planned time to answer Christmas cards with a note and ended up getting the request for help. *deep breath* Now the Christmas cards wait. 😀 I felt a bit frustrated and posted it online in Facebook and received a wonderful note from a father I had helped a few years ago:

      Stephen: Jackie in my book you have won every award, lets go for dinner in Red Bank this summer at my sailing club, I can thank you more than I can ever say…
      10 hours ago · Unlike · 1

      My reply: Jackie Saulmon Ramirez Stephen, I appreciate your comment more than you know. Even as you wrote this, I was helping a grandmother with something that was very disruptive to the peace in her family. This is her remark when I first received her request for help:
      “Enlighten us, Jackie! It is what you do best!! Thanks! Gramma Susan”
      Susan’s and your comments are my award. Peace and harmony are my goals for a family. What greater reward could I ever receive than that?
      a few seconds ago · Edited · Like

      BACKGROUND: Stephen came into the THREE Parents Anonymous Online Support Group and asked for help. He was crying and thought he would never see his three children again. His wife has serious mental illness and she had accused him of child abuse. He attended the three groups and contacted me to edit letters to school, in-laws, lawyers and the judge. I helped him focus on the children’s needs rather that his wife and all the emotions that go with that. Over two years he got full custody of the children and divorced his wife as she wanted. In the middle of this I asked him to speak at our statewide conference where he met a “nice lady.” At all times I insisted the children needed to maintain a relationship with the mother and they needed him to respect and be kind to her. It all worked out and his family settled into a healthy routine. The day Stephen got married he texted me to thank me for all my work with him saying he wouldn’t be getting married if not for me. Every time I think of this I get weepy. He is a wonderful father with super kids. Stephen was/is a millionaire and he remarked that he had nothing without his children. What a great dad – and just think, I made a real difference – for the better – in the life of this family. I might be an unpaid volunteer but that kind of feeling can’t be bought.

      I will put the award in my folder in case I get time. Thank you!
      Jackie

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  14. Cara Olsen says:

    Jackie, I love this – “(I hate the word “Blog,” it sounds like “Blah” or “Eggnog!”)” ~ Cara

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  15. Hi, thanks so much for visiting and following my blog at: http://lovelyseasonscomeandgo.wordpress.com. Your blog is amazing and so I will follow your blog too. Have a wonderful day! Betty

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  16. afsheenanjum says:

    Hello Jackie,
    I am glad that you followed my blog and through which now i am able to see yours Website 🙂 I knew you hate the word Blog 🙂
    I am a person who wants to become mother as soon as possible but Allah knows better and when.
    I would love to know more about your work and experiences.
    May Allah bless you and your loved ones.. ameen

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  17. James Keegan says:

    Thank you for following my little blog. I enjoyed reading through some of you posts.

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  18. gpcox says:

    Pleasure to meet you.

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  19. Maggie Beck says:

    Jackie, thanks for choosing to follow Tide Line Still Life. I am enjoying perusing your site and plan to share it with my three daughters, all of whom are raising daughters. Best, Maggie

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    • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

      That is wonderful, Maggie! I have another blog dedicated to supporting the Parents Anonymous of NJ parent support groups. Parents get together online twice a week to talk about issues with other parents.

      http://PA-Of-NJ.org

      http://PANJOnlineGroup.org/

      I don’t know which state you are in but there’s a good chance that your state may have a Parents Anonymous organization with brick-and-mortar groups where parents meet.

      Just a few minutes ago I put up information for parents who may need proof of attendance for child protective services. We’ve had many parents be required to attend but then love it so much that they continue.

      Take care, Maggie. I’m sure I’ll be seeing you again.

      Jackie

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      • Maggie Beck says:

        Thanks, Jackie. I am also in NJ, as is one of my daughters. I really appreciate this info.
        Best,
        Maggie

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      • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

        That is awesome, Maggie. There are groups in almost every county if your daughters ever have the need. They can find local groups by calling: 1-800-843-5437 or 1-800-THE-KIDS.

        Parents Anonymous of NJ is funded in part by DCP&P/DYFS but we are completely independent of them. Just so you know.

        It’s good to meet another Jersey Girl. 😉

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  20. Your blog is very helpful and beautiful. Thank you so much for helping others with your writing.

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  21. Emy Will says:

    Hi Jackie. Thanks for following my blog FUR OUT THE CLOSET. You must be an animal lover ❤
    Best wishes,
    Emy

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    • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

      Hi Emy,
      I am an animal lover and vegetarian. When I look at someone eating meat I think of the animal, the sound they make and how it died to end up on that plate. Yes, I am an animal lover and then some. Spiders are safe at my house. 🙂 ❤
      Regards,
      Jackie

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  22. Ganesh says:

    Nice and inspiring blog, Jackie! Thanks for following “Known is a drop, Unknown is an Ocean”. 🙂

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  23. Dilip says:

    Hi Jackie I find your blog has some interesting topics. Providing parenting insights is indeed a good purpose for young couples.
    With best wishes and regards. 🙂

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  24. Dr. Rex says:

    Just stopping here for the 1st time. It’s good to know this about you. You are doing a great job. I have another view of you ….. looks very nice! Hugs ….

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    • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

      Thank you, Horty, for stopping by. Another view? There is more than one? Hmm. 🙂 Thank you for following. ❤

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      • Dr. Rex says:

        For starters, I didn’t know this is what you do! Lol

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      • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

        🙂 Now I am truly smiling. I am a volunteer for Parents Anonymous whose goal is to support parents in raising healthy, happy children. My goal is to share some of the many things I learned over the years and support parents in any way I can. In other words, I try to give moms and dads what I needed many years ago as a struggling parent when all I learned from my parents was… well, not acceptable in today’s world. I also had anger/rage from my upbringing that I continue to fight from time to time. 🙂 Thank you, Horty, for stopping by! ❤

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      • Dr. Rex says:

        I’m very interested in what you do. Do you have any suggestions for grandparents? My partner has 4 grandkids …. 2 from her son, 2 from her daughter. She’s the daily caretaker/nanny/day care. Of the 4, 2 are closer. Those we are having some issues with. Had a meeting w/ a LCSW this week ….. trying to learn more & help. You know that I’ve describe this in a very simplistic manner.

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      • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

        In that case, let me tell you some of the other things I do…

        We have twice weekly parent support groups where I meet with parents and the moms and dads come up with ideas that amaze. (The live chat room has been having issues so we will be getting a new one very soon; the current room is 11 years old and the technology is breaking down. The new room will be much better.) The current meeting times are Wednesdays 9:00 p.m. Eastern Standard Time and Thursdays 12 noon EST. I don’t know your time zone so you would need to calculate the difference; I am on New York time or EST time. (Meetings are 2 hours long.)

        Here is a link to information about the group and tips for getting the most out of the group:
        http://panjonlinegroup.org/

        Here is the link to Parents Anonymous and the online group:
        http://pa-of-nj.org/

        To help parents to remember the meeting I e-mail the Reminder the day of the meetings. The Reminder comes with attached parenting information and fun things like word searches, scrambled words and so on. Since I have your e-mail address, I will sign you up for the Wednesday and Thursday Reminders. I keep information private. If you decide to stop the Reminder simply REPLY and I will remove your e-mail.

        Parents who need information can e-mail me at any time and I can send them information on Word Documents that they can read or print out. I return all e-mails that need a reply. I provide one-on-one e-mail support when needed and/or sources found online as appropriate.

        Grandparents are often the cornerstones of families and in this time of rampant drug abuse many end up raising grand kids. While the name is “Parents Anonymous,” the organization supports any and all caregivers to children. Here in New Jersey we have a few groups especially for grandparents only.

        If you have any questions feel free to ask. 🙂

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      • Dr. Rex says:

        Thank you for this information …. I live in Florida so we are in the same time zone.

        Do keep me posted. I appreciate your info.
        Hugs …. ❤

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      • Dr. Rex says:

        I saved both links on a separate document. Thanks so much …. I think that the time that would work better for us would be 9PM.

        At noon, Maryjane is still taking care of the 20 month old b4 his nap. 🙂

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      • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

        I actually start working on the Reminder today that will go out Wednesday and Thursday. I added you a few minutes ago. I hope they get the room replaced soon. This week we had 5 members, another facilitator and I in the room and it crashed several times. This week I am praying for TECHNOLOGY!

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      • Dr. Rex says:

        Thank you Jackie … again, please keep me posted. Thx ….. remind me. I hope that I can get this technology going ….. hugs!!! 🙂

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      • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

        🙂 You are THE BEST! ❤

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      • Dr. Rex says:

        YOU are …..

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      • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

        Toddlers are a handful but it’s the greatest time to shape new people! I’m in that group on those two days and times no matter what. even on holidays. There is no need to check in beforehand. The only time I ever missed was in 2008 after my stroke. 🙂 I came to trying to remember their names.

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      • Dr. Rex says:

        🙂 ….. I am amazed. I strongly believe in synchronicities. This seems like one of them …. there’s a reason for this connection. 🙂

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      • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

        I felt this at my first Parents Anonymous meeting. And I try to make every parent feel like I did because it is what I needed. I attended for about 15 years…. my kids grew up so I started blogging to reach out. The best thing is that it’s all free of charge.

        The PANJOnlineGroup link has the IPAP I, II and III. You can get a hard copy if you want it… all free. To meet criteria as a “real” group we needed a way to give parents the IPAP so I copied it online. Parents can get the “real” thing in their mailbox.

        Just so you know… What I write in the Reminder ends up on my blog. The Reminder also has free ebooks you can request too: Copy/paste the info into a REPLY and I will send them to you.

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  25. Thank you for following my blog. I look forward to reading yours.
    Jovina

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  26. jacksonjc9 says:

    hello Jackie! I enjoyed going through your blog and your posts bring light to the parents! Hope to read more 🙂

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    • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

      Thank you very much! Parents are #1 in my book, they are creating the future so if I can toss out a few tips to help then that makes me happy.

      Your blog and images are wonderful so I plan to visit often. 🙂

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  27. Thanks for your “follow” – looking forward to exploring your world and perspectives. 🙂

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  28. Hi Jackie. thank you so much for the follow. I am not a parent but do hope to teach.

    Much love~
    Sindy

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    • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

      Hi Sindy, good to meet you! We have had more than a few teachers/educators in my Parents Anonymous group! We also had one child psychologist who needed help with her own child so it proves that nobody is immune to the stress of caring for children. I give you kudos for taking time to read up on parenting issues. 😉

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  29. ohiocook says:

    thank you for stopping by my blog.

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  30. ohiocook says:

    ..and thank you for following my blog!

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  31. Hello! I’ve nominated your blog for the ‘Real Neat Blog Award.’ You can learn more about it here: http://wp.me/p3XGQ4-160

    Feel free to participate, or not. If you have the time, pass the award on by nominating other worthy blogs.

    Meanwhile: ‘Congratulations! You’ve got a Real Neat Blog!’

    JoAnn

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    • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

      Hi JoAnn,

      Thank you so much for your kind thoughts, I am truly humbled. I wish I had the time to spare, the award sounds fun, but the blog is only a small part of what I do.

      Again, thank you from the bottom of my heart.

      Jackie

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  32. Hope everything is well with you Jackie. I wish you well for 2015.

    I seen you posted to your Face Book page about the two year old that shot is mother. That happened in the state were I live only about 2 hours drive. So sad.

    Thanks so much Jackie for all your visits to my blogs and your comments, and words of kindness to me in other matters.

    Thanks for your time and consideration, as well as sharing your experiences about parenting on Parent Rap.

    Regards,
    Randy

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    • Jackie Saulmon Ramirez says:

      Thank you so much, Randy! Likewise, I wish you and yours a happy, productive New Year!

      I actually took time off this year – the first break since I started the blog more than two years ago. It’s a working break, though, I’m updating parenting information that I send out in the e-mail Reminder – deleting old and formatting new. I plan to return to the blog next week, hopefully.

      I enjoy your blogs! You have great information and superb recipes. I sent your URLs to family members to check you out. 🙂

      I am glad you like the things I post on Parent Rap; those posts are the result of the Reminder e-mails (360) I send out to parents and professionals in the business. The blog is but the tip of the ice berg, so to speak. There are two (soon to be three) parent support meetings I facilitate online weekly, including all holidays. I also do one-on-one support to various parents when needed. I try to give other parents what I needed when I was struggling as a mom.

      I am so glad you stopped by to visit, and thank you, Randy, for kind words. ❤ 🙂 See you next week!

      As always,

      Jackie

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  33. I understand. Have a happy New Year!

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  34. Hey , thanks for following Don’t Label My Kid!
    Tj

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  35. Hi Jackie- Thank you for following my blog. I hope you will enjoy it. Perhaps you could take a moment to mention which aspect appeals to you – Photography or History? Good luck in your endeavours. Des.

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