Author Archives: Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

About Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Jackie has volunteered for more than twenty years for children and family issues. Currently she writes for parents in the "Reminder" and "Parent Rap" Facebook page. If you are interested in receiving the "Reminder," send her a message.

Could Parents Anonymous Have Helped My Mother?


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | October 21, 2015 I have asked myself this question a thousand times: “Could Parents Anonymous have helped my mother?” My mother used to tell her friends about how bad I was. I didn’t do things … Continue reading

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When You See Child Abuse In Public


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | October 14, 2015 We have all seen parents losing it in public with their children, but what can anyone do to help? We were shopping once and passed between the electronics and clothing just in … Continue reading

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The Passage of Time: A Message for Parents


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | October 7, 2015 On those seemingly never-ending days when no energy remains except to crawl into bed, think about this: Last week I banged away at my keyboard, finishing up end-of-the-month work and was distracted … Continue reading

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Why Is Parenting So Difficult?


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | Septembr 30, 2015 Why is being a mother or father so hard? Parenting looks easy – cute, smiling kids – what could possibly go wrong? Parenting is not now or has ever been easy. Stress … Continue reading

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Tips On Change


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 23, 2015 By the time people get to a self-help group, they may be at their lowest point and are desperate to change things quickly. That is true with any self-help venue whether it … Continue reading

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Preventing Parent Deafness


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 9, 2015 Parent deafness was a term coined many years ago that meant children were not listening to parents. When I hear from a parent that their child is not listening to them, I … Continue reading

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Personal Safety Tips For Children


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 16, 2015 As young children go off to school and other activities, it is a good time to review personal safety guidelines and tips. These are but a few basic safety measures parents can … Continue reading

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Benefits of Good Manners


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 2, 2015 As children grow, one of the best skills needed in life is good manners. From the time children begin moving around on their own, they should be taught good manners by their … Continue reading

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Customs, Traditions and Rituals


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | August 26, 2015 Customs, Traditions and Rituals: What is the Difference and Why do Children Need Them? Customs, traditions and rituals were always an interesting topic in the Freehold Parents Anonymous Group that I attended. … Continue reading

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Breathing to Calm Myself


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | August 19, 2015 Getting calm when I was angry was difficult but it was important for my children to be safe. Anger used to slip up on me until I learned to recognize the signs. … Continue reading

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What Is The Number One Life Skill Kids Need?


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | August 12, 2015 If you had to choose only one skill for your child to become proficient in, which skill would you choose? Discussing life skills recently, I was asked which life skill I thought … Continue reading

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Back-To-School Tips


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | August 5, 2015 Back-to-school time is lurking just around the corner (Wipe those smiles off your faces!) and is a favorite time of year for me, too. Many schools send kids home with summer assignments … Continue reading

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Call Out Racism Where It Lives


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | July 29, 215 For our children’s generation, what are the answers concerning what seems to be never-ending racism? One of the answers unfolded in social media recently from start to finish with a friend of … Continue reading

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“YOU Are A Terrible Person!”


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | July 22, 2015 “You! You’re a terrible person! You are thoughtless and careless! You are no good!” “You” is heard by the child as an attack or blame; that automatically puts a child on the … Continue reading

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Bragging Parents Not Welcome


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | July 15, 2015 Everyone has known someone like this; the non-stop braggart with more tales of greatness than a hive has bees. My mother had a friend who, when she pulled in the driveway, mom … Continue reading

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Making the Best Use of Group Time


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | July 8, 2015 Having volunteered on the Helpline and been a group member for many years I was sometimes asked how Parents Anonymous works. That is when I then smile and reply, “It is the … Continue reading

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Edicts to Last a Lifetime


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | July 1, 2015 As parents, we tend to sometimes feel that it’s useless to keep reminding children to do things that will keep them happy, safe and well. “Wash your hands before you eat.” “Don’t … Continue reading

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Discarded Wallet


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | June 17, 2015 Last year Mr. Ramirez did something he had been putting off for some time; he took the leap and bought a new wallet. He was about to throw the old one out … Continue reading

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Mom vs. Dad Parenting Articles


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | June 3, 2015 Parenting articles may target mothers or fathers but in reality, both should read them. Just to remind everyone that even though an article’s title may say “Dads” or “Moms” or in any other … Continue reading

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Toddler Tantrums: Parent Survival Tips


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 20, 2015 Toddlers can sometimes require the patience of a saint and the wisdom of the Dali Lama to find healthy solutions. When Chelsey was born I spent months dreading the terrible twos. I … Continue reading

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Parental Perspectives


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 6, 2015 Perspectives can change our emotional responses dramatically. Human beings are emotional creatures and being a parent often magnifies those feelings. Watching a nameless child hit a home run is not nearly as … Continue reading

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Marvin Marshall’s Discipline Without Stress


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 13, 2015 Many parents struggle to find the perfect method for bringing up children with the least amount of aggravation as possible. Oh, and it has to be simple. With my own children, I … Continue reading

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Snooping, Yes or No?


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 29, 2015 To snoop or not to snoop, that is the question. Is it nobler to turn a blind eye or should you become a detective? In Parents Anonymous meetings, parents had many lively, … Continue reading

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Chores: Let Kids Do What Works


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 22, 2015 My grandmother Mur used to say, “There is more than one way to skin a cat,” and she was right. This past weekend I came up with a new way to do … Continue reading

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Parents Taking Liberties


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 15, 2015 Aesop was correct when he said, “familiarity breeds contempt.” Familiarity breeds a comfort level between parents and children that allows unkind words and actions if not brought to mind. Example: When you … Continue reading

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Instructions: Be Clear and Concise


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 8, 2015 Unless you are a mind reader, if a person gives you a job, the first thing you need to know is how they want it done – it’s the same with children. … Continue reading

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Two Tricks My Mother Played Well


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 1, 2015 Many of you have heard how my mother abused me, but you have not heard about the two things she did well. As any parent will tell you, they treasure their young … Continue reading

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When is a good time to join Parents Anonymous?


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | March 25, 2015 I was desperate and needed help but the time never seemed just right; there was laundry, errands to do or I was meeting a friend for coffee. Over the years parents have … Continue reading

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Warning: Easter Sugar Overload!


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | March 18, 2015 Easter is coming – watch out for sugar overload! Most parents try to limit sugar and candies their children consume and holidays can often wreck our endeavors. While one day will not … Continue reading

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Dangers (Toddlers) Underfoot In The Kitchen


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | March 11, 2015 What can do you do when a toddler is constantly underfoot in the kitchen? With two-year-old Chelsey, before I came to Parents Anonymous, I really had no idea what I should do. … Continue reading

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