Category Archives: How-To

Teach Kids School Bus and Pedestrian Safety Again and Again


“Okay, kids, what is the giant-step rule?” By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | January 14, 2015 Parents tell children about pedestrian and school bus safety but there is still a good chance they have forgotten what was said. • My older … Continue reading

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Stroking: What It Is and How It Works


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | October 29, 2014 “Stroking” is something that one of our Parents Anonymous facilitator mentioned often to members. It is such a simple thing, really, but something we may not think of too often. Stroking is … Continue reading

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Halloween: Toes, Worms and Eyeballs


Great memories sometimes only need a little planning and an active imagination. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | October 22, 2014 As a teenager Katie provided childcare for our Parents Anonymous Group caring for young kids while parents met. She planned … Continue reading

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Halloween and Mischief Night Safety for Children


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | Revised October 8, 2014 It is a child’s job to have fun on Halloween and it is a parent’s job to keep them safe while they do that. Mischief Night “Mischief Night” or “Devil’s Night,” … Continue reading

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Easy Parenting Part III – The Don’ts List


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | October 1, 2014 Here are a few don’ts that found their way onto my easy parenting list; some came from the Freehold Parents Anonymous Group members and one came from Chelsey – who felt we … Continue reading

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Easy Parenting Part II


From the outside looking inward, couples never imagine how time-intensive parenting will be until they are swamped in diapers, homework and play dates. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 24, 2014 Children consume a great deal of effort, energy and … Continue reading

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Easy Parenting Part I


Honestly, some of those parenting methods need a PhD to explain how it is supposed to work! By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 17, 2014 A new member to the Parents Anonymous Online Groups once asked me to give her … Continue reading

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Depression and Feeling Better – Part III


Stress can dramatically affect our responses to our children’s daily needs. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | July 16, 2014 Parents Anonymous Group members can sometimes recognize depression in each other before we admit it to ourselves. When something is “not … Continue reading

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Depression and Feeling Better – Part II


Depression is common among parents from time to time but should not define your life. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | July 9, 2014 The Parents Anonymous Group I attended was much like any group in society; almost everyone experiences prolonged … Continue reading

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Depression and Feeling Better – Part I


Parenting is hard normally but if you are depressed as well then it is much harder than it should be. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | July 2. 2014 In my Parents Anonymous Group, depression touched many of our lives from … Continue reading

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The Incredible Mom-Hulk


Parenting skills are passed from one generation to the next – unless the template is deliberately changed. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | June 25, 2014 My parenting life was spent anxiously trying to stay calm and not get angry. When … Continue reading

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How Will This Kid Ever Make It In The Real World?


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | June 18, 2014 In our Parents Anonymous Group we parents often wondered aloud how our children would ever survive in the real world: Will they be able to manage money? Will they learn to cook … Continue reading

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Mur: Think In Terms Of Ten Years


We learn much about parenting from the people around us, especially those we love. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | June 11, 2014 My grandmother Mur was only educated to the third grade but she was one of the wisest people … Continue reading

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Father’s Day Message To Dads


Father’s Day is approaching once again with many looking forward to celebrations but for me, it is bittersweet. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | June 4, 2014 My parents divorced in 1975 when I was already an adult; while I was … Continue reading

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Get Kids (Learning) Playing


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 28, 2014 Many parents look forward to children’s vacations from school but each summer also brings dread. What do you do when the kids finally utter the first ‘I’m bored’? Boredom can be so … Continue reading

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Get Children To Be Responsible For Their Room


The age-old problem of getting children to clean their rooms is one of the top issues discussed in Parents Anonymous Groups around the globe. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 21, 2014 There are almost as many solutions, though, as … Continue reading

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The Need To Know: Child Into Adulthood


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 14, 2014 Children can often help parents reduce stress and help themselves at the same time. In and out of my Parents Anonymous Group, I have come across many parents dealing with situations that … Continue reading

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Fun By Natasha: Bucket List Rewards


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 7, 2014 Parents never cease to amaze me with their ingenuity and drive to bring up their children to be happy and productive adults. Natasha shared her method for choosing and earning reward activities … Continue reading

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Which Is It, Chores Or Punishment?


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 30, 2014 What if you won a contest and the prize was for a genie to instantly clean and do menial jobs around your home for you? Sounds wonderful, does it not? A busy … Continue reading

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Homework Approach For Parents


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 23, 2014 “My children were such fun – until homework entered the picture.” ~ Anonymous Parent Homework is necessary to reinforce what kids learn during the day, according to educators, but it can drive … Continue reading

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Promise Not Kept


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 16, 2014 Can your children count on you? Can your kids count on what you say today meaning the same thing tomorrow? When nine-year-old Chelsey was in the fifth grade, Mr. Ramirez wanted her … Continue reading

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Bribery And Rewards: What’s The Difference?


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 9, 2014 Parents in my Parents Anonymous Group often discussed bribery and rewards but many confused the two. What exactly is the difference and why does it matter? HINT: Bribes are not planned beforehand … Continue reading

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Tip: Ask And Tell Children


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 2, 2014 Cteavin, an American blogger friend now living in Japan, shared this experience in parenting and I thought parents here in the US would find it great benefit. The technique works especially well … Continue reading

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Toss Punishment – Keep Discipline


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | March 26, 2014 If a parent punishes a child, what does a child learn from that? ‘Punishment’ is a very ugly word and I wish parents would take that word, write it down on a … Continue reading

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Ten Tools For Parents


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | March 19, 2014 “Just come and get this kid!” was often the plea I heard from parents as a volunteer on the Family Helpline. By the time parents made the call to the Family Helpline … Continue reading

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Children Want To Be A Hero


We learned the hard way, our heart-shaped pond held children’s attentions – and real danger. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | March 5, 2014 My father built a rock-lined, heart-shaped goldfish pond for my mother in the back yard. The pond … Continue reading

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Jolly K.’s Courageous Contribution


Who is Jolly K. and why does she matter? By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | February 26, 2014 Born in the late 1940s, Jolly K. was placed in the first foster care home as a young child. From there she would … Continue reading

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Fear As A Parenting Tool


In Parents Anonymous, we talk about parenting tools, fear isn’t one of them. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | February 19, 2014 “You better get it done before I get back!” “I better not hear of you monkeying around in school!” … Continue reading

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Validation Is A Valuable Gift – If You Get It


If your children were magically put in charge of you, how would they treat you? By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | February 12, 2014 Many years ago I attended a workshop at the Parents Anonymous conference and, as always, I was … Continue reading

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Outreach Tips For Support Groups


Starting a new support group or keeping an established group going can take a lot of energy and commitment. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | February 5, 2014 When the doors open you will have already passed out fliers and told … Continue reading

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