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Social Media Poster: “Respect for Others”


Ranting is not something I regularly engage in but… By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 3, 2014 As many of you know, I volunteer for Parents Anonymous of New Jersey, a leader in the prevention of child abuse. If you … Continue reading

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Jolly K.’s Courageous Contribution


Who is Jolly K. and why does she matter? By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | February 26, 2014 Born in the late 1940s, Jolly K. was placed in the first foster care home as a young child. From there she would … Continue reading

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Fear As A Parenting Tool


In Parents Anonymous, we talk about parenting tools, fear isn’t one of them. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | February 19, 2014 “You better get it done before I get back!” “I better not hear of you monkeying around in school!” … Continue reading

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Validation Is A Valuable Gift – If You Get It


If your children were magically put in charge of you, how would they treat you? By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | February 12, 2014 Many years ago I attended a workshop at the Parents Anonymous conference and, as always, I was … Continue reading

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Lucy and Ricky’s World No More


“I cannot believe they allow that on television; what’s the world coming to!” By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | October 31, 2013 When I was knee-high to a grasshopper, Ricky and Lucy Ricardo were required to sleep in twin beds and … Continue reading

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Stay-At-Home Guilt


Are you a working parent or a stay-at-home parent? By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 19, 2013 Over the years Mr. Ramirez and I have revisited my being a stay-at-home mom and whether or not it was a good idea. … Continue reading

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What Will Your Epitaph Say About You?


A gravestone is often marked with the birth and death dates and sometimes a single line written by children of the deceased. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | August 22, 2013 My family and I went to Emley’s Cemetery in Imlaystown, … Continue reading

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Dial-Up and Spanking


Writing about spanking drums up negative images from my childhood that makes it seem like just yesterday. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | August 8, 2013 Many will remember the early years of computers when our internet connections via telephone lines … Continue reading

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Mary Ellen Wilson – Catalyst for Change


Hobbies are wonderful for children and it is even more fun when the whole family can get involved. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | July 31, 2013 My daughter Chelsey expressed a keen interest in cemeteries when she was about three … Continue reading

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Before You Lose Your Cool…


Sometimes we parents become angry and act without thinking— and sometimes hurt the very children we love. Words, once they leave our lips, cannot be taken back. Putting a plan in place before it is needed can make all the … Continue reading

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Jesus, Grandma and Spanking


Few topics raise tempers on both sides as much as spanking and scriptures. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | July 13, 2013 This week I heard from Susan, a longtime member who has joined grandparenthood and is now dealing with new, … Continue reading

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Spanking and Anger-Rage Issues


When a parent has anger-rage issues they may reach a point when they will be unable to control of their actions. When this happens, a parent may not be able to stop or regain control of their actions or emotions. … Continue reading

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What is the True Cost of Child Abuse?


If the invisible damage showed up like bruises and marks, perhaps parents would think twice. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 30, 2013 About ten years ago Mr. Ramirez was partly dozing off after a long day and watching a TV … Continue reading

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What I Learned From Other Parents Anonymous Members


This is the first installment in the series about the extraordinary parents that taught me about parenting, life and death. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 29, 2013 With no family or friends in the area, I attended my Parents Anonymous … Continue reading

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Reporting My Husband to CPS Not Once – But Twice


When my husband would not quit hitting our girls, I had to find a way to stop him myself. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 23, 2013 Parenting differences often pop up when moms and dads do not agree on … Continue reading

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Choosing Corporal Punishment


Parents have many decisions ahead of them when babies grow into young children: vegan or meat, car or van, spanking or non-violence. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 22, 2013 When any parent chooses to use corporal punishment it makes … Continue reading

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My First Parents Anonymous Meeting


I was losing it with my daughter and needed help; my plea was answered by many other parents. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 15, 2013 Chelsey and Katie were pretty good kids but after we moved to Long Branch, … Continue reading

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Soup to Nuts’ 100th Reminder Celebration


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 25, 2012 Today’s article is my 100th post on the Soup to Nuts blog and I am celebrating! A little over a year ago I did not even know what a ‘blog’ was. (It … Continue reading

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My First Quilt and the End of a Legacy


In February the blocks I began to cut, And everyone said I must be a nut! The days went by and I began to sew, As my family watched the project grow. Much progress and many mistakes were made, As … Continue reading

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Yell or Scream at Your Kids?


Not everyone has lost their cool with their kids like me but there are many that have  yelled on occasion. I believe yelling became the go-to discipline method when child abuse was put on the books and could be “investigated” … Continue reading

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Weather Changes Affects Children’s Behavior


When my girls were school-age the topic of weather and our children’s behavior came up in my Parents Anonymous group. The facilitator said, “Any time there is a weather change you can expect the kids’ behavior to change.” Several teachers … Continue reading

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Thoughtful Spanking


There are other things to think about when considering spanking as a means of discipline By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | December 5, 2012 Spanking can split folks in a room into taking sides faster than politics and it is just … Continue reading

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The Powder Girls and My Little Brother


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 19, 2012 My younger brother Terry had not seen our mother for many years until I broke the news to him she was dying of cancer. He had been separated from his wife for … Continue reading

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Why Join a Parents Anonymous® Support Group?


You are a parent looking for help and support but you are not quite sure if a Parents Anonymous Group is for you. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 18, 2012 Here are a few reasons a Parents Anonymous Group … Continue reading

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The Spanking Debate Continues


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 12, 2012 Last week I read an article by Sarah B. Weir about physicians in Canada (in the CMAJ-Canadian Medical Association Journal) calling for a ban on spanking and tossing out the law that … Continue reading

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Lady Justice and My Children


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | Sept 2, 2012 Human beings are creatures of emotion and being a parent often enhances those feelings. I cringe yet thinking about things I may have said as I discovered vegetables stashed between cushions or … Continue reading

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Children and Low Self Esteem


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | August 29, 2012 We know self esteem is a person’s view of themselves or their worth. We also know a child’s view of their self worth can be increased or decreased by the way a … Continue reading

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From Scary Stories to a Cello


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | August 7, 2012 After eight years of attending college my twenty-six-year-old daughter Katie returned to begin her career in art. She looks and sounds the same and acts the same but she has settled down … Continue reading

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One Spill Away


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 30, 2014 There are many stories of child abuse on the TV news and newspapers that stop us in our tracks. What would drive a parent do something like that to their own flesh … Continue reading

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Dial-Up


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 30, 2012 A few years ago I was researching ‘spanking’ for an article I was working on and came across a website where you could click to listen to an actual spanking as it … Continue reading

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