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Social Media Poster: “Respect for Others”


Ranting is not something I regularly engage in but… By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 3, 2014 As many of you know, I volunteer for Parents Anonymous of New Jersey, a leader in the prevention of child abuse. If you … Continue reading

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Get Children To Be Responsible For Their Room


The age-old problem of getting children to clean their rooms is one of the top issues discussed in Parents Anonymous Groups around the globe. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 21, 2014 There are almost as many solutions, though, as … Continue reading

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Which Is It, Chores Or Punishment?


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 30, 2014 What if you won a contest and the prize was for a genie to instantly clean and do menial jobs around your home for you? Sounds wonderful, does it not? A busy … Continue reading

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Promise Not Kept


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 16, 2014 Can your children count on you? Can your kids count on what you say today meaning the same thing tomorrow? When nine-year-old Chelsey was in the fifth grade, Mr. Ramirez wanted her … Continue reading

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Bribery And Rewards: What’s The Difference?


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 9, 2014 Parents in my Parents Anonymous Group often discussed bribery and rewards but many confused the two. What exactly is the difference and why does it matter? HINT: Bribes are not planned beforehand … Continue reading

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Ten Tools For Parents


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | March 19, 2014 “Just come and get this kid!” was often the plea I heard from parents as a volunteer on the Family Helpline. By the time parents made the call to the Family Helpline … Continue reading

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Morning Stress Makeover


What is the number one thing that people could do at night to reduce morning stress? By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | January 29, 2013 When my daughters were younger I often told them to pick out their clothes before they … Continue reading

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How Ana’s Grandfather Taught Her Patience


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | January 8, 2014 There are lessons to be learned around us all the time. My friend Ana and I discuss many things and I am always surprised at her gentleness and composure in the face … Continue reading

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Motivation To Stop Smoking


Did you not choose a resolution for the New Year? Then I have a good one for you from the Tobacco Nazi! By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | January 1, 2014 Drumroll please…….! Cigarette smoke kills more than 5 million people … Continue reading

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At The End Of My Rope


Little feet following my every step and more questions than I had answers – was it really so long ago? By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | December 18, 2013 This week I was talking with a friend by e-mail about different … Continue reading

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Positive and Negative Moods


“There is not one good thing I can say about my child!” By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | November 20, 2013 Parents in my Parents Anonymous group heard this more than once from exasperated parents, (blush) me included. We all may … Continue reading

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Heroes: Meet Two of Mine


The title ‘Hero’ is bandied about every day but what does that mean? By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | November 14, 2013 If you had asked me at age seven who my hero was I would not have hesitated to tell … Continue reading

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Appreciate Children’s Efforts


Instructions are important, especially to children doing a chore for the first time. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | October 30, 2013 When I was about six years old we lived in Daytona Beach, Florida. Sand was everywhere; on our floors, … Continue reading

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How Not To Have A One-Year-Old’s Birthday Party


Have you ever offered to help a friend in need and then been terribly sorry later? By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | October 10, 2013 Lacey, one of the mothers in my Parents Anonymous group, announced her son Paul’s birthday party … Continue reading

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Graded by Kids: Passing or Failing


Perspective on any situation can become a valuable eye-opening tool. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | October 9, 2013 As parents we want our households to run smoothly but that does not always happen. While I was wearing my Mom hat … Continue reading

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Rules and Boundaries for Adult Children


Eighteen is the magic number: Children are always stretching boundaries with parents, even when they are considered to be adults. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | October 3, 2013 As children grow from one stage to the next rules need review … Continue reading

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Peer Pressure and Allowance


Fifteen-year-olds do not turn into crazed consumers overnight but there is hope. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 25, 2013 Recently a mother was shocked and bewildered when her son demanded she buy him the latest gadget while cursing and … Continue reading

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PMS and Changing Consequences


Are you a pushover parent? Are you putty in your child’s manipulating hands? By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 19, 2013 Changing your mind is quite different from caving in to wailing pleas from a child. In the beginning of … Continue reading

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Blame & Shame


“You did it – it is your fault!” By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 5, 2013 Many claim credit for positive things that occur; cleaning the bathroom mirror, feeding the dog or finding the answer to the riddle on page … Continue reading

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What Will Your Epitaph Say About You?


A gravestone is often marked with the birth and death dates and sometimes a single line written by children of the deceased. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | August 22, 2013 My family and I went to Emley’s Cemetery in Imlaystown, … Continue reading

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Before You Lose Your Cool…


Sometimes we parents become angry and act without thinking— and sometimes hurt the very children we love. Words, once they leave our lips, cannot be taken back. Putting a plan in place before it is needed can make all the … Continue reading

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Toddler Tantrum Tips


Toddlers’ tantrums are infuriating and embarrassing but if you can take yourself out of auto-pilot mode you can see you do have solutions. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 16, 2013 When Chelsey was born I spent months dreading the … Continue reading

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My First Parents Anonymous Meeting


I was losing it with my daughter and needed help; my plea was answered by many other parents. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 15, 2013 Chelsey and Katie were pretty good kids but after we moved to Long Branch, … Continue reading

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A Child’s Mistake: Holding a Grudge


Recognize when you are holding a grudge against your child By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 17, 2013 Attending my Parents Anonymous group was the best thing I could have done for my daughters Chelsey and Katie. All the parenting … Continue reading

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Complete 5-Minute Cure For Thrush


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | January 10, 2013 Unsolicited advice from family can be pretty annoying at times, especially when you have everything under control with the help of your pediatrician. One time though, I wished I had listened sooner. … Continue reading

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Yell or Scream at Your Kids?


Not everyone has lost their cool with their kids like me but there are many that have  yelled on occasion. I believe yelling became the go-to discipline method when child abuse was put on the books and could be “investigated” … Continue reading

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Problem Solving


Because people are creatures of habit we tend to approach everything the same way every day: Get up, go to the bathroom, get the kids up, make/eat breakfast, double-check backpacks and lunches, drive to school, do errands, etc. Sounds like … Continue reading

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Thoughtful Spanking


There are other things to think about when considering spanking as a means of discipline By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | December 5, 2012 Spanking can split folks in a room into taking sides faster than politics and it is just … Continue reading

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How You Speak is the Golden Key


With any communication you must first think of your desired outcome By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | November 4, 2012 Standing to the side and finding fault is easy when you are not caught in the middle of the fray. It’s … Continue reading

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Tips to Defuse Anger


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | October 10, 2012 Shopping for a car when you are in a hurry is risky business. Driving 65 mph in a school zone is tempting fate. Pushing firefighters aside to run into a burning building … Continue reading

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