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“YOU Are A Terrible Person!”


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | July 22, 2015 “You! You’re a terrible person! You are thoughtless and careless! You are no good!” “You” is heard by the child as an attack or blame; that automatically puts a child on the … Continue reading

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Bragging Parents Not Welcome


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | July 15, 2015 Everyone has known someone like this; the non-stop braggart with more tales of greatness than a hive has bees. My mother had a friend who, when she pulled in the driveway, mom … Continue reading

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Mom vs. Dad Parenting Articles


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | June 3, 2015 Parenting articles may target mothers or fathers but in reality, both should read them. Just to remind everyone that even though an article’s title may say “Dads” or “Moms” or in any other … Continue reading

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Parental Perspectives


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 6, 2015 Perspectives can change our emotional responses dramatically. Human beings are emotional creatures and being a parent often magnifies those feelings. Watching a nameless child hit a home run is not nearly as … Continue reading

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The Conference Exercise That Made Me Think


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | December 3, 2014 After reading the post, Great (and Not So Great) Expectations  from two weeks ago, I received a comment from a reader that had a childhood not unlike many of us. I was … Continue reading

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Parents Anonymous and STEP Changed Our Outcomes


Stopping my anger was like trying to stop a runaway train and I could almost predict what would happen if child protective services got involved. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | November 12, 2014 Thankfully, Dinkmeyer, McKay and Dinkmeyer were there … Continue reading

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Halloween and Mischief Night Safety for Children


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | Revised October 8, 2014 It is a child’s job to have fun on Halloween and it is a parent’s job to keep them safe while they do that. Mischief Night “Mischief Night” or “Devil’s Night,” … Continue reading

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Easy Parenting Part II


From the outside looking inward, couples never imagine how time-intensive parenting will be until they are swamped in diapers, homework and play dates. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 24, 2014 Children consume a great deal of effort, energy and … Continue reading

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Weather Changes Affect Children’s Behavior


Fall weather can be unpredictable and changes in weather can alter children’s behavior. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | Updated September 10, 2014 When my girls were school-aged, the topic of weather and our children’s behavior came up in my Parents … Continue reading

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Social Media Poster: “Respect for Others”


Ranting is not something I regularly engage in but… By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 3, 2014 As many of you know, I volunteer for Parents Anonymous of New Jersey, a leader in the prevention of child abuse. If you … Continue reading

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Getting To School On Time


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | August 27, 2014 Seeing a big yellow school bus instantly reminds me of Chelsey and Katie’s experiences catching a ride; frantic searches for things to cram in their backpack and teeth half brushed after a … Continue reading

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Anger Builds Unless Safely Vented


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | July 30, 2014 A wise and funny man, Dr. Laurence J. Peter once said, “Speak when you are angry—and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.” Not only was he wise, he was right. … Continue reading

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Self-Esteem In Children: What Is Our Role?


Most parents would never intentionally hurt their children, but unfortunately some do. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | July 23, 2014 Our self-esteem and what other people think of us are sometimes at the opposite ends of the scale. If I … Continue reading

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Depression and Feeling Better – Part II


Depression is common among parents from time to time but should not define your life. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | July 9, 2014 The Parents Anonymous Group I attended was much like any group in society; almost everyone experiences prolonged … Continue reading

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How Will This Kid Ever Make It In The Real World?


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | June 18, 2014 In our Parents Anonymous Group we parents often wondered aloud how our children would ever survive in the real world: Will they be able to manage money? Will they learn to cook … Continue reading

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Independence Day – Fourth of July


These Independence Day – Fourth of July resources are some that I have recommended to Parents Anonymous parents. Resources are in alphabetical order according to the resource titles. If you find a broken link or have a resource to share … Continue reading

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Mur: Think In Terms Of Ten Years


We learn much about parenting from the people around us, especially those we love. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | June 11, 2014 My grandmother Mur was only educated to the third grade but she was one of the wisest people … Continue reading

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Ramadan


These Ramadan resources are some that I have recommended to Parents Anonymous parents. Resources are in alphabetical order according to the resource titles. If you find a broken link or have a resource to share with other parents please use … Continue reading

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Flag Day


These Flag Day resources are some that I have recommended to Parents Anonymous parents. Resources are in alphabetical order according to the resource titles. If you find a broken link or have a resource to share with other parents please … Continue reading

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Get Kids (Learning) Playing


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 28, 2014 Many parents look forward to children’s vacations from school but each summer also brings dread. What do you do when the kids finally utter the first ‘I’m bored’? Boredom can be so … Continue reading

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Get Children To Be Responsible For Their Room


The age-old problem of getting children to clean their rooms is one of the top issues discussed in Parents Anonymous Groups around the globe. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 21, 2014 There are almost as many solutions, though, as … Continue reading

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The Need To Know: Child Into Adulthood


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 14, 2014 Children can often help parents reduce stress and help themselves at the same time. In and out of my Parents Anonymous Group, I have come across many parents dealing with situations that … Continue reading

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Which Is It, Chores Or Punishment?


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 30, 2014 What if you won a contest and the prize was for a genie to instantly clean and do menial jobs around your home for you? Sounds wonderful, does it not? A busy … Continue reading

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Homework Approach For Parents


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 23, 2014 “My children were such fun – until homework entered the picture.” ~ Anonymous Parent Homework is necessary to reinforce what kids learn during the day, according to educators, but it can drive … Continue reading

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Promise Not Kept


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 16, 2014 Can your children count on you? Can your kids count on what you say today meaning the same thing tomorrow? When nine-year-old Chelsey was in the fifth grade, Mr. Ramirez wanted her … Continue reading

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Bribery And Rewards: What’s The Difference?


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 9, 2014 Parents in my Parents Anonymous Group often discussed bribery and rewards but many confused the two. What exactly is the difference and why does it matter? HINT: Bribes are not planned beforehand … Continue reading

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Tip: Ask And Tell Children


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 2, 2014 Cteavin, an American blogger friend now living in Japan, shared this experience in parenting and I thought parents here in the US would find it great benefit. The technique works especially well … Continue reading

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Toss Punishment – Keep Discipline


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | March 26, 2014 If a parent punishes a child, what does a child learn from that? ‘Punishment’ is a very ugly word and I wish parents would take that word, write it down on a … Continue reading

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Fear As A Parenting Tool


In Parents Anonymous, we talk about parenting tools, fear isn’t one of them. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | February 19, 2014 “You better get it done before I get back!” “I better not hear of you monkeying around in school!” … Continue reading

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Validation Is A Valuable Gift – If You Get It


If your children were magically put in charge of you, how would they treat you? By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | February 12, 2014 Many years ago I attended a workshop at the Parents Anonymous conference and, as always, I was … Continue reading

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