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The Passage of Time: A Message for Parents


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | October 7, 2015 On those seemingly never-ending days when no energy remains except to crawl into bed, think about this: Last week I banged away at my keyboard, finishing up end-of-the-month work and was distracted … Continue reading

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Tips On Change


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 23, 2015 By the time people get to a self-help group, they may be at their lowest point and are desperate to change things quickly. That is true with any self-help venue whether it … Continue reading

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Parenting Pretend: Fake It Till You Make It


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | February 18, 2015 Twenty-six years ago an army assembled behind me for moral support… and they never left. It seems so long ago that I attended my first Parents Anonymous meeting; the issue driving me … Continue reading

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Anger Uses Time, Energy and Thought


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | August 13, 2014 Shopping for a vehicle when you are in a hurry is risky business. Driving 65 mph in a school zone is tempting fate. Pushing firefighters aside to run into a burning building … Continue reading

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Fun By Natasha: Bucket List Rewards


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 7, 2014 Parents never cease to amaze me with their ingenuity and drive to bring up their children to be happy and productive adults. Natasha shared her method for choosing and earning reward activities … Continue reading

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Tip: Ask And Tell Children


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 2, 2014 Cteavin, an American blogger friend now living in Japan, shared this experience in parenting and I thought parents here in the US would find it great benefit. The technique works especially well … Continue reading

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Toss Punishment – Keep Discipline


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | March 26, 2014 If a parent punishes a child, what does a child learn from that? ‘Punishment’ is a very ugly word and I wish parents would take that word, write it down on a … Continue reading

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How Ana’s Grandfather Taught Her Patience


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | January 8, 2014 There are lessons to be learned around us all the time. My friend Ana and I discuss many things and I am always surprised at her gentleness and composure in the face … Continue reading

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Learning To Tell Time


O’clock, a quarter of, half past – what does it all that mean? By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | December 25, 2013 As kids go, I must have been one of the hardest to teach how to tell time. My fourth … Continue reading

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Teach Your Children The Way You Teach Your Dogs


When you get a puppy you teach them to be housebroken, to sit, stay, down and heel— kids need training too. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | December 13, 2013 Hilda, an 86-year-old member in my Parents Anonymous group, had reared several … Continue reading

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Positive and Negative Moods


“There is not one good thing I can say about my child!” By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | November 20, 2013 Parents in my Parents Anonymous group heard this more than once from exasperated parents, (blush) me included. We all may … Continue reading

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How Not To Have A One-Year-Old’s Birthday Party


Have you ever offered to help a friend in need and then been terribly sorry later? By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | October 10, 2013 Lacey, one of the mothers in my Parents Anonymous group, announced her son Paul’s birthday party … Continue reading

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Rules and Boundaries for Adult Children


Eighteen is the magic number: Children are always stretching boundaries with parents, even when they are considered to be adults. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | October 3, 2013 As children grow from one stage to the next rules need review … Continue reading

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Peer Pressure and Allowance


Fifteen-year-olds do not turn into crazed consumers overnight but there is hope. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 25, 2013 Recently a mother was shocked and bewildered when her son demanded she buy him the latest gadget while cursing and … Continue reading

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PMS and Changing Consequences


Are you a pushover parent? Are you putty in your child’s manipulating hands? By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 19, 2013 Changing your mind is quite different from caving in to wailing pleas from a child. In the beginning of … Continue reading

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Dial-Up and Spanking


Writing about spanking drums up negative images from my childhood that makes it seem like just yesterday. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | August 8, 2013 Many will remember the early years of computers when our internet connections via telephone lines … Continue reading

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Before You Lose Your Cool…


Sometimes we parents become angry and act without thinking— and sometimes hurt the very children we love. Words, once they leave our lips, cannot be taken back. Putting a plan in place before it is needed can make all the … Continue reading

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Toddler Tantrum Tips


Toddlers’ tantrums are infuriating and embarrassing but if you can take yourself out of auto-pilot mode you can see you do have solutions. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 16, 2013 When Chelsey was born I spent months dreading the … Continue reading

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Soup to Nuts’ 100th Reminder Celebration


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 25, 2012 Today’s article is my 100th post on the Soup to Nuts blog and I am celebrating! A little over a year ago I did not even know what a ‘blog’ was. (It … Continue reading

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Stop Children’s Fighting Over Toys


When toys create unhappiness and discord in families it is time to look for solutions. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 10, 2013 When parents buy a toy for their children, we have visions of happy, smiling children enjoying the … Continue reading

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Depression: Actions You Can Take to Feel Better


Depression is common but should not define your life By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez In my Parents Anonymous group, depression touched many of our lives from time to time. Many of our members were dealing with very difficult, stressful situations that … Continue reading

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Weather Changes Affects Children’s Behavior


When my girls were school-age the topic of weather and our children’s behavior came up in my Parents Anonymous group. The facilitator said, “Any time there is a weather change you can expect the kids’ behavior to change.” Several teachers … Continue reading

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Parenting Disasters and PMS


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | December 5, 2012 Last week I was talking with my friend Ana and the topic drifted to our parenting disasters. My anger issues are legendary but I’ve always known Ana to tip the scales in … Continue reading

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Tips to Defuse Anger


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | October 10, 2012 Shopping for a car when you are in a hurry is risky business. Driving 65 mph in a school zone is tempting fate. Pushing firefighters aside to run into a burning building … Continue reading

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A Lesson from Ana’s Grandfather


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | October 1, 2012 My friend Ana and I were talking about patience recently. I told Ana how I increased patience by getting into the longest checkout line in the supermarket or by counting to fifteen … Continue reading

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If It’s Not Working, Stop Doing It!


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 26, 2012 One thing puzzles me from childhood, why did my mother keep that old sugar bowl for so long? It was small, wide at the top, narrow at the bottom, made of cheap … Continue reading

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The Powder Girls and My Little Brother


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 19, 2012 My younger brother Terry had not seen our mother for many years until I broke the news to him she was dying of cancer. He had been separated from his wife for … Continue reading

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The Boss’ Rules


Rules are great. Rules are necessary for human beings to exist in an orderly manner. Rules keep the world running smoothly. Rules were most assuredly created on the eighth day. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 12, 2012 Rules make … Continue reading

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Lady Justice and My Children


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | Sept 2, 2012 Human beings are creatures of emotion and being a parent often enhances those feelings. I cringe yet thinking about things I may have said as I discovered vegetables stashed between cushions or … Continue reading

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Wants Map Leads to School


By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | August 23, 2012 Some kids love going to school, and unfortunately some do not. Goal setting can help but many have difficulty connecting the now to the future job and earning power. Here is a … Continue reading

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