Tag Archives: self-esteem

Benefits of Good Manners

Posted on September 19, 2015 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 2, 2015 As children grow, one of the best skills needed in life is good manners. From the time children begin moving around on their own, they should be taught good manners by their … Continue reading →

Posted in Parenting | Tagged confidence, Courteous, Courtesy, Etiquette, Kindness, Manners, Polite, Respectful, self-esteem | 4 Comments

The Conference Exercise That Made Me Think

Posted on December 7, 2014 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | December 3, 2014 After reading the post, Great (and Not So Great) Expectations from two weeks ago, I received a comment from a reader that had a childhood not unlike many of us. I was … Continue reading →

Posted in Parenting, Self-Esteem | Tagged abuse, “Just look at her and she cries, ” “Good for nothing, ” “It’s just alligator tears”, ” “Like tits on a boar, ” “Useless, Brother, Care, communication, Conference, damage, Exercise, Facebook, father, Hug, Hugs, Kiss, Kisses, Lazy, Love, Low Self-Esteem, mother, parent, parenting, parents, Parents Anonymous, self-esteem, Show, Tell, Workshop | 10 Comments

Stroking: What It Is and How It Works

Posted on November 1, 2014 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | October 29, 2014 “Stroking” is something that one of our Parents Anonymous facilitator mentioned often to members. It is such a simple thing, really, but something we may not think of too often. Stroking is … Continue reading →

Posted in Communication, How-To | Tagged Appreciation, Attention, Ego, Feel Good, Happy, NOT a ‘Thank You’, NOT a command, NOT flattery, Notice a Change, Parents Anonymous Facilitator, self-esteem, Stroking, Tool | 17 Comments

Easy Parenting Part III – The Don’ts List

Posted on September 29, 2014 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | October 1, 2014 Here are a few don’ts that found their way onto my easy parenting list; some came from the Freehold Parents Anonymous Group members and one came from Chelsey – who felt we … Continue reading →

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Self-Esteem In Children: What Is Our Role?

Posted on July 21, 2014 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Most parents would never intentionally hurt their children, but unfortunately some do. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | July 23, 2014 Our self-esteem and what other people think of us are sometimes at the opposite ends of the scale. If I … Continue reading →

Posted in Parenting, Self-Esteem | Tagged Acquaintances, Bullying, child, children, Constructive, friends, Important, Influence, Kid, kids, Negative, parent, parents, Pie Chart, Positive, Praise, Relatives, school staff, self-esteem, Teachers | 18 Comments

Father’s Day Message To Dads

Posted on June 4, 2014 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Father’s Day is approaching once again with many looking forward to celebrations but for me, it is bittersweet. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | June 4, 2014 My parents divorced in 1975 when I was already an adult; while I was … Continue reading →

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Get Kids (Learning) Playing

Posted on May 30, 2014 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 28, 2014 Many parents look forward to children’s vacations from school but each summer also brings dread. What do you do when the kids finally utter the first ‘I’m bored’? Boredom can be so … Continue reading →

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Fun By Natasha: Bucket List Rewards

Posted on May 5, 2014 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 7, 2014 Parents never cease to amaze me with their ingenuity and drive to bring up their children to be happy and productive adults. Natasha shared her method for choosing and earning reward activities … Continue reading →

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Promise Not Kept

Posted on April 18, 2014 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | April 16, 2014 Can your children count on you? Can your kids count on what you say today meaning the same thing tomorrow? When nine-year-old Chelsey was in the fifth grade, Mr. Ramirez wanted her … Continue reading →

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Children Want To Be A Hero

Posted on March 6, 2014 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

We learned the hard way, our heart-shaped pond held children’s attentions – and real danger. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | March 5, 2014 My father built a rock-lined, heart-shaped goldfish pond for my mother in the back yard. The pond … Continue reading →

Posted in Communication, How-To, Parenting | Tagged #ParentsAnonymous, 1962, Bantam, Banty, Chickens, child, children, Dad, Explore, Exploring, family, father, Hens, Hero, Jackie Saulmon Ramirez, Joey and Daniel, Kick, Kicked, Mom, mother, Old House, Parents Anonymous, Play Games, Rhode Island Reds, Roosters, Self Image, self-esteem, Swat, Swatted, Swatting, Trouble | 8 Comments

Validation Is A Valuable Gift – If You Get It

Posted on February 16, 2014 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

If your children were magically put in charge of you, how would they treat you? By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | February 12, 2014 Many years ago I attended a workshop at the Parents Anonymous conference and, as always, I was … Continue reading →

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Lesson On Bullying

Posted on January 4, 2014 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Children know what it feels like to be bullied, but how do you explain what happens inside the person who is being bullied in terms a child can understand. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | January 4, 2014 A friend and … Continue reading →

Posted in Communication, Education, How-To, Parenting | Tagged #ParentsAnonymous, Bully, Bullying, child, children, co-parenting, Dad, damage, daughter, Elementary, Elementary School, family, Feelings, Fix It, Hurt, Jackie Saulmon Ramirez, Lesson, Message, Mom, mother, New York Teacher, parent, parenting, Parents Anonymous, Principal, Scars, school, self-esteem, Sorry, teach, Teacher, Teachers, Unseen Damage, Wrinkled Paper | 8 Comments

Trust the Group

Posted on November 10, 2013 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Parents second-guess many decisions made when their children were young but we all did the best we could. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | November 6, 2013 Last night I saw a scary movie meant for children and immediately my thoughts … Continue reading →

Posted in Education, How-To, Parenting | Tagged #ParentsAnonymous, child, children, Dad, daughter, Education, encourage, Encouragement, family, father, Jackie Saulmon Ramirez, kids, Learning, Mom, mother, parent, parenting, Parents Anonymous, Reading, school, self-esteem | Leave a comment

Appreciate Children’s Efforts

Posted on November 1, 2013 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Instructions are important, especially to children doing a chore for the first time. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | October 30, 2013 When I was about six years old we lived in Daytona Beach, Florida. Sand was everywhere; on our floors, … Continue reading →

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Friendless Kid? Try This

Posted on August 16, 2013 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

“I don’t have any friends!” will be a lament heard by many parents after the first day of school. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | August 14, 2013 Being friendless is a concern for many children and time will take care … Continue reading →

Posted in Communication, How-To, Parenting | Tagged child, children, Dad, daughter, father, Gloomy, kids, mother, parent, parenting, parents, Parents Anonymous, Posture, school, self-esteem, Smile, Smiling, son, Unwelcoming, Welcoming | 1 Comment

Teenage Girls and their Fathers

Posted on July 14, 2013 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Teenage girls who have positive relationships with their fathers have higher self-esteem and are less likely to be depressed. I am open to your thoughts on this; send me a message. Copyright © 2014 Jackie Saulmon Ramirez. All Rights Reserved. … Continue reading →

Posted in Education, Parenting, Teen Pregnancy | Tagged Babies, Baby, child, Dads, Education, Fathering, Fathers, girls, High Self-Esteem, parent, parents, Positive, Positive Relationship, Pregnancy, self-esteem, Self-Worth, Teen Pregnancy, Teenage Girls, Unwed | Leave a comment

What is the True Cost of Child Abuse?

Posted on May 30, 2013 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

If the invisible damage showed up like bruises and marks, perhaps parents would think twice. By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | May 30, 2013 About ten years ago Mr. Ramirez was partly dozing off after a long day and watching a TV … Continue reading →

Posted in How-To, Parenting | Tagged #ParentsAnonymous, Brain, Chelsey, child, child abuse, damage, daughter, Domestic violence, driving, father, kids, mother, parent, parenting, parents, Parents Anonymous, physical abuse, Posttraumatic stress disorder, self-esteem, World War II | Leave a comment

Depression: Actions You Can Take to Feel Better

Posted on March 17, 2013 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Depression is common but should not define your life By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez In my Parents Anonymous group, depression touched many of our lives from time to time. Many of our members were dealing with very difficult, stressful situations that … Continue reading →

Posted in How-To, Parenting | Tagged #ParentsAnonymous, boredom, chronic depression, depression, help, Parents Anonymous, patience, sadness, self-esteem, stress, suicide, support, support group | Leave a comment

Thanking Mister Rogers

Posted on October 27, 2012 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

Mister Rogers gave empathy, encouragement and understanding in his interview By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | October 27, 2012 In the winter of 2002 I drove to an appointment and having a few extra minutes decided to finish listening to an … Continue reading →

Posted in How-To, Parenting | Tagged bullies, Bully, child, children, daughter, Mister Rogers, Mr. Rogers, Parents Anonymous, self-esteem | 4 Comments

Jackie’s Long List of Chores

Posted on September 20, 2012 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | September 20, 2012 Chores teach lifelong skills and values that cannot be bought. TIPS The word ‘Chore’ can be changed to: Duty, Task, Obligation, Service, Work, Toil, Job or Responsibility. Pick a word! Simply changing … Continue reading →

Posted in How-To, Organizing, Parenting | Tagged #ParentsAnonymous, back-to-school, child, children, chore, chores, family, household, kids, learn, parent, parenting, parents, Parents Anonymous, pride, reward, self-esteem, summer, teach, values, work | 2 Comments

Children and Low Self Esteem

Posted on August 29, 2012 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | August 29, 2012 We know self esteem is a person’s view of themselves or their worth. We also know a child’s view of their self worth can be increased or decreased by the way a … Continue reading →

Posted in How-To, Parenting | Tagged back-to-school, child, child abuse, children, kids, parenting, parents, Parents Anonymous, self-esteem, stress | Leave a comment

Self-esteem and Your Piece of the Pie

Posted on July 17, 2012 by Jackie Saulmon Ramirez

By Jackie Saulmon Ramirez | July 17, 2012 Self-esteem and what other people think of us are at the opposite ends of the scale. If I evaluate my worth I take into account the work I do and how others … Continue reading →